Have you ever been surprised by another mom’s parenting style? Check out Pretty Wicked Moms!

If you are a mom, I’m sure at some point another mom’s parenting style has surprised you.  For good or for bad.  Maybe both. When POPSUGAR asked me if I wanted to check out a new show coming soon to Lifetime called Pretty Wicked Moms, I wanted to see it.  I am NOT the biggest reality TV fan out there, but sometimes it’s just plain fun to watch these shows.  The world of being a mom can be one of the most wonderful and supportive communities there is- but at the same time (often simultaneously) it can also be one of the most cutthroat, competitive and judgemental communities out there.

when i was still the worlds best mother

Before I was a mom, I was the best.parent.ever. I was going to do it all RIGHT.  After you stop laughing at my ridiculousness, keep reading.  I think the mom’s parenting style that has surprised me MOST has been my own. I am fairly sure most people thought I’d put my kids on a schedule quite early….I’m not sure we’ve ever had a real schedule in this house. There’s a lot of grey in our schedule. Not much black and white. I really wasgoing to be the best mom ever. I researched my butt off. I was on the pre-parental pregnancy HIGH HORSE, y’all, and I wasn’t coming down off of that.  I was just going to move it to a pedestal.

And then the baby came.  Aw, hi cute baby!!  CRASH.  Off that high pedestal, right now, new mama!!  You weren’t going to cosleep?  Babies should only nurse for 6 weeks? 6 months?  You’ll never cloth diaper?  Won’t wear your baby?Think again, my friend.

i was never going to wear my baby

Babywearing quickly became a way of life for me as a mom. But it was on my “I never” list!

Like so many mamas I’d met, talked to, read about, heard about, or just saw, when the baby came, I had to do a lot based on my instinct.  Maybe it wasn’t with kid 1, or even kid 2.  But by kid 3?  Many, many of those “I never” statements I’d been so darn sure about were “I’ve done it” or “It got the baby to sleep/eat.”  All that stuff in “the books” didn’t apply to my baby.  Trial and error got us into a groove, although it seemed like the groove would last for 3 days and things would change again.  Back to square one.

I have see other’s reactions when they learn how close together our children are, or that my littlest one slept in our bed for the better part of a year.  I’ve seen eyebrows go up when they hear that not one but TWO of my kids were nursed far past a year, one for over 2 years.  I’ve also seen “that look” when they learn my kids have all had formula.  Or that I took multiple herbal remedies to increase my breast milk production for months on end.  I’ve long since stopped caring (although not to the extent some of the moms on Pretty Wicked Moms don’t care!!) about what others think.  My family, my business. Period. Your family, your business.

I am not proud of this but I can clearly remember thinking (and probably judging because I was so ignorant) about WHY anyone would want to breastfeed a baby after a year…a toddler…a preschooler…and yet, here I am, telling you I nursed my younger 2 far past a year, the last one, well past 2 years.  Me.  The one who couldn’t understand why anyone would want to.  But at the time, it worked. It worked for my kids and it worked for me.  It hurt no one and it worked.  Now, if I hear someone has an extended nursing relationship, I quietly think to myself “I hope their kid isn’t a biter.”

I’ve learned from my almost 8 years as an actual parent (and unlearned all the perfection I wasn’t ever going to attain in my months of pregnancy with child #1) that we are all pretty much doing the very best we can.  Period.  If it works and isn’t hurting anyone, who cares?  Not my business, not yours either.  Of course, that doesn’t mean that I can’t enjoy a show that gets as snarky and high -horsey (or should I say, high-end-horsey) like Pretty Wicked Moms.  That’s just fun to watch.  (And really, if I’m being totally honest, I sit and wonder why in the world someone would want to wear heels that high while caring for their children…..)

pretty wicked moms

Photo from Lifetime

If you want some fun viewing, be sure to check out Pretty Wicked Moms.  This group of moms is not like any mom I’ve met in real life, but the parenting styles and differences are the same basic ones that I’ve heard from all moms.  Cosleeping, caregiving, birthday parties and more.  The parenting styles and differences aren’t so different, but these ladies seem a lot more concerned with how they look WHILE they are parenting than what others think!  It’s snarky and outrageous at times but it’s also entertaining and fun to watch. Tune in to watch parenting like you’ve never seen before with the first episode of Pretty Wicked Moms on Tuesday, June 4, at 10:00 pm ET/PT on Lifetime.

Have you heard of Pretty Wicked Moms?  Will you be watching June 4th?

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11 comments… add one
  • Like you, I had so many big ideas before getting pregnant, and then POOF! A lot changed. I think the biggest thing for moms is to not judge, everyone does things differently. Can't wait to check out that show! Although I can't help but look at them and think "do they clean poop out of the tub just like us?" ;)
  • Ive never heard of them- but now I kinda wanna watch it. lol
  • I havent heard of it until now. I cant wait to see it on tv - just to see what it's all about.
  • Cracks me up how the women are all glam and the guys look blue collar! =) This should would probably entertain the heck out of me and now I can watch it since my parents have all the great stations to watch! Hooray! And btw, with 4 kids (2 grown) I'm still learning. =)
  • I've never heard of the show...That's kind of surprising, because I'm online so much! I know I'm guilty of judging sometimes, but I think I judge myself the most harshly. I never meet my own expectations, and I feel like I"m failing every day. I need to stop it! As parents, we need to support others more and not be so hard on ourselves! I think I just might watch!
  • Haven't heard of the show... probably won't watch it (not a big fan of TV), but I do have to say it amazes me how much parents in general judge one another.
  • I really can't wait to see this and can't wait til it starts. As for parenting - my views changed quickly once I became a parent too. Even through all the kids - the things I did with number one and two - I changed with the rest. On a LOT of things. I actually learned so much, that I wish I could do it all over. The things I get criticized for like cloth diapering, baby wearing, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, not vaccinating, etc. I wish I could do all over again, not matter WHO thought I was wrong for it.
  • I swore I'd never be "my mom". I hear her voice all the time and it scares the sh-poopy out of me. I totally get it LOL.
  • This looks like a cool show and since I am a reality TV junkie I'll have to check it out! P.S. Weren't we all the best parents before having out kids??
  • I am not a big reality television person either, but a show on various parenting styles should be interesting to say the least. It is always fun seeing how someone else copes with the same struggles I deal with. Thanks for sharing!
  • I will be tuning in. I had not heard of the upcoming show until now and, well, you have piqued my interest. I actually enjoy a few reality shows (just a few) - and this one is right up my alley. I love to see how other moms live and run their homes. I get great ideas on what to do and WHAT NOT TO DO! lol. Thanks for your story too-love hearing I'm not the only mom that had all these grand plans of how to raise my baby-til the day I met him....then her....then him #2 and her #2 - now with 4 kids I NEED a schedule but KNOW better ;)

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